There is a man currently in the public eye that I despise – perhaps more than I despise anyone else. I outright loathe this man and do not shy away from saying so whenever I’m given the opportunity. Sometimes I feel the need to create that opportunity if one does not naturally arise.
This man is a perpetual crybaby who whines constantly.
This man wants to be adored for mediocre work.
This man is a raging misogynist and has a terribly sexist relationship with women.
This man’s supporters claim that anyone who doesn’t like his work simply lacks the intelligence to understand it.
This man claims to love the institution he helms, yet he dismantles it at every opportunity.
This man actively seeks to destroy the legacy of his predecessor.
I find myself counting down the days until his reign of terror is finally over.
Dear reader, no I’m not talking about Donald Trump. Rather, I’m discussing the blight on society known as Steven Moffat. Unfortunately for all of us, Moffat’s influence will likely far outlast that of Trump’s.
If your Facebook newsfeed looks anything like mine has over the past several months, then nary a day goes by without political posts making you want to claw your eyes out.
Whether you agree or disagree, there comes a point of saturation where you consider deleting your Facebook page, removing yourself from modern society, relocating to a desolate ice cave in Antarctica (You can get Netflix there, right?), and never speaking to another human being again. Or maybe that’s just me.
Either way, navigating the waters of fandom have given fangirls an advantage in dealing with these tumultuous political times.
RULE NO. 1 – DON’T ENGAGE THE ENEMY CAMP
I’m not advising you to stop talking to everyone who disagrees with your political beliefs. That would be pretty ridiculous. Some of the best friends I’ve had haven’t always agreed with me on social or financial political issues. If my friendships weren’t created on purely political reasons, why would I end them because of political reasons?
There are times when you can have very open and honest discussions, without either side getting offended, about topics important to you. I have a few friends who are hardcore Swan Queen shippers. They all know that I am not. On many occasions we have discussed why they ship this pairing as well as the problematic issues that I raised about them. Each of us listened for understanding, not in an attempt to convince the other that they were wrong. I’ll offer you a hint, these discussions rarely happen on Facebook, or message boards, or comment sections, or pretty much anywhere on the internet. They happen when each person involved in genuinely concerned not only with the other person’s opinions, but also with their feelings.
I am not going to seek out Moffat-stans in an attempt to convince them that Steven Moffat is a terrible show runner whose “strong female characters” are as tropey as they come. I won’t even point out to them that Moffat not only contradicts the history of Doctor Who, but also previous versions of his own Doctor Who. You seriously want me to believe that no one saw a giant Statue of Liberty strolling around NYC? Seriously? Not one person? Nobody looked up and thought ‘hey, that doesn’t belong here!’
Basically, unless it is a close personal friend, they don’t care about your opinion and you are only wasting your time and your energy. Your time could be better spent asking people in New York if they’d notice if one day the Statue of Liberty just started walking around town.
RULE NO. 2 – IT IS OK TO TUNE OUT
In all of these political posts circulating, I’m consistently seeing people admonished for failing to keep up to date on every single minute political issue. At the end of the day, we all have the issues that are significant for us – and ones that aren’t. It is ok that we don’t all find the same issues important. In fact, this is how we can insure that the issues get covered; even if you don’t necessarily care about them, there is someone out there who does.
Not only is it fully acceptable to ignore certain issues, it is also fully acceptable to turn it all off and tune out at times. Sometimes it is a necessary step in self-care.
I have spoken extensively on this blog about my falling out with Major Crimes. Even though I stopped watching the show a year ago, this does not mean that I harbor any ill-will toward Mary or her character. It simply means that I cannot watch the show because it does not align with my personal beliefs. Or my sense of entertainment.
When something important does happen, I tune back in to find out what it was. Nobody should be surprised that I tuned back in for the very important Sharon’s going to turn all of the women queer pant suit episode!
We all have to tune out at times. That’s the nature of modern society. Whether it’s your once favorite show or the current political scandal, there’s nothing wrong with shutting it out and walking away.
RULE NO. 3 – WE (HOPEFULLY) ALL LOVE THE THING
This rule doesn’t really apply to the extremists on either side. There will always be people who declare that Steven Moffat is the greatest show runner that Doctor Who will ever have. There are also who will fail to give him credit even when he has a good idea. (Even I can admit that I thoroughly enjoyed “The Doctor Dances”) Ultimately though, both sides of the Moffat debate are people who, arguably, enjoy Doctor Who and want to see the program succeed. While critics raise issues about Moffat’s tendency of having the Doctor imprinting on young girls or his treatment of queer characters, these critiques are offered out of a genuine desire to see Doctor Who succeed. Sometimes we get so focused in the minutia that we forget to look at the greater picture; we are all working to protect something that is greater than all of its parts.
Follow these three simple rules and hopefully the next few years will be slightly more tolerable. If all else fails, at least we can all start watching Doctor Who again in 2019. Lastly, above all else, if you ever see the Statue of Liberty out for an evening stroll around Manhattan, whatever you do Don’t Blink!
AUTHOR’S NOTE: This light-hearted list is in no way meant to belittle the struggle of minority groups. We must continue to support disenfranchised members of our society. It’s simply pointing out the connections between real-life politics and fandom politics.